One fabulous Thinker

Scripture  "Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts." — Psalm 139:23 Sometimes the complaint coming out of our mouths isn't the deepest thing happening in our hearts. "You never make time for me." "You don't help me." "You're not romantic." "You don't listen." But underneath those words might be something much more vulnerable: I miss you. I want to feel chosen. I want us to be a team. I want to feel heard. I want to feel loved. That doesn't mean every complaint is wrong. Sometimes there really are problems in a marriage that need to be addressed. Sometimes we've communicated clearly, and the other person still chooses not to respond or change. But before we assume we know exactly what our spouse is doing or why they're doing it, we can invite God to search our own hearts. What am I really feeling? What am I really needing? What story am I telling myself about what happened? Is this a...