One fabulous Thinker

"My feelings are valid — my reactions are chosen." Before we talk about triggers, reactions, or healing, there is a question most of us avoid.   Not "Was I hurt?" But "What did I do with that hurt?" Because, if we are honest, many of us have learned to explain our reactions but not to examine them. And that is where this gets uncomfortable. Most of us carry moments where we felt completely justified in how we responded. Moments where our reaction made sense because of what was done to us. Many of us have heard it  or maybe even said it ourselves:   "Well, if you didn't make me mad, I wouldn't have acted that way." "You're always annoying — that's why I reacted like that." "They deserved it." "They hurt me first." But have you ever stopped and asked yourself: I can be hurt… but am I regulated? Being hurt is real. God never asks you to pretend something didn't aff...