One fabulous Thinker

If you've been married for any length of time, you know: loving someone and truly understanding them don't always go hand in hand. That's where the hardest conversations and the choice to keep showing up for each other, not just keep fighting, begin in marriage. You can love your spouse deeply and still sit across from them thinking, How did you hear it that way? You can know their heart and still be frustrated by their perspective. You can be completely convinced that you're explaining yourself clearly while they're sitting there hearing something entirely different. It's one of the strange mercies of marriage. Two people can live the same moment and walk away with two different stories about what just happened, and both of them can be telling the truth as they experienced it. My husband and I have been married long enough to know that marriage isn't just about the good days. It's also about what we do when we're tired, frustrated, hurt, misundersto...