One fabulous Thinker

  I'm sure you've heard it said that when children express themselves in ways that seem disrespectful, mean, or rude, they're sometimes trying to communicate something much deeper that they don't yet have the language to express. The behavior is what we see. But underneath it, there may be a feeling, a need, a fear, or a hurt they don't know how to put into words. And honestly? We do the same thing in marriage. We get better at disguising it. We get upset because our spouse isn't romantic enough. They're not helpful enough. They don't listen. They don't spend enough time with us. And the list goes on. But what if sometimes the complaint isn't the deepest thing we're actually trying to say? What are you really asking for? I learned this one early in our marriage. There was a season when I was caught up in the thought that my husband just wasn't romantic enough. I would get upset. I'd go through all the emotions. I'd think about wha...