One fabulous Thinker

  I remember one morning when I made breakfast for my husband and me, and we sat there talking and enjoying our meal. I looked at him and said, "I'm mad at you." He looked at me like, "Why? What did I do this time?" I started laughing and told him, "I had a dream." He laughed too. "For real?" Yes. Apparently, I had woken up upset with my husband because of something he had done in a dream. I'm sure in my dream he did something terrible. At least, whatever happened felt very real when I woke up. But it was a dream. And yet, for a few minutes, I was carrying the emotion of something that never actually happened. It made me think about how easily we can do that in marriage. Sometimes we create entire movies in our heads about our spouse. We assume what they meant. We fill in the blanks. We replay conversations. We build narratives around things they said, or didn't say. And sometimes those stories aren't even based on s...