One fabulous Thinker

  "Search me, O God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts." — Psalm 139:23 It's easy to pray for God to change someone else. Especially when we're hurt. We can see exactly what needs to be different. We know what they said, what they did, what they should have done, and what they need to understand. And sometimes, we're right. But there are moments when we come to God, asking Him to change our spouse, and instead He gently turns the mirror back on us. Not to shame us. To change us. That can be uncomfortable. Because I can point out what my husband needs to work on while completely overlooking the places God is asking me to grow. I can be right about the problem and still have the wrong response. I can have legitimate hurt and still carry unforgiveness. I can want better communication while refusing to listen. I can ask for more grace while struggling to give it. I can pray, "God, change him," when God may be whispering, "Let Me ch...