To the Girl Caught Between Rejection and Approval

 

You've been walking a tightrope—balancing between who you are and who you think you need to be to be loved.

You've felt the sting of silence when you needed affirmation.

You've watched others get chosen while you stood in the shadows, wondering what made you invisible.

You've tried to be agreeable, impressive, indispensable—anything to earn a place at the table.

And still, the ache remains.

Rejection has a way of rewriting your story if you let it.

It whispers lies: You're not enough. You're too much. You're forgettable. You're replaceable.

It makes you question your worth, your voice, your very presence.

But here's the truth that breaks through every lie:

You were never meant to live for the approval of people who can't see your full worth.

You were never meant to shrink to fit someone else's comfort.

You were never meant to hustle for love that was already yours in Christ.

God didn't wait for you to be perfect before He called you beloved.

He didn't ask you to perform before He said, "You are mine."

He saw every wound, every tear, every moment you felt discarded—and He chose you anyway.

You are not defined by who walked away.

You are defined by the One who stayed.

And He's not just staying—He's rebuilding.

He's restoring the places where rejection carved deep.

He's rewriting the narrative with grace, truth, and identity that cannot be shaken.

You don't have to chase approval anymore.

You don't have to bend yourself into someone else's mold.

You don't have to earn what was freely given.

You are already approved.

Already loved.

Already enough.

And the right people—the ones sent by God—will not make you beg for belonging.

They will honor your heart, not just your help.

They will celebrate your presence, not just your performance.

They will see you as a gift, not a convenience.

So breathe, daughter.

Let go of the weight of their opinions.

Let go of the fear of being misunderstood.

Let go of the need to prove your worth.

You are not too much.

You are not too late.

You are not forgotten.

You are chosen.

You are cherished.

You are called.

And you are walking into a season where rejection will no longer be your teacher—

because grace has taken over the classroom.

With love, truth, and fierce compassion,

Tamy